The above is what I wrote on my Facebook wall on Father's Day, Sunday, 18th of June, 2017.
I wrote it based on my life, hoping it would cause some positive changes in the way men and women who have broken relationships and have children together think for the sake of their children.
Unfortunately, the Nigerian mentality in men and a few women seems to be a hard nut to crack. My wall was bombarded with reasons why I should not call my ex-husband an asshole, why I should not put my private life in the public, why I should protect the children, why I should go and reconcile with my husband, why I should take down the post, why I should be closer to God, bla, bla, bla.
Those against this update fail to realize that my Facebook wall is mine, my data is mine, my story is mine and my decision is mine. As Facebook friends, they are free to advise me but not impose their decisions on me with fallacious proverbs and irrelevant Bible passages.
My children know my story. In fact, they were the ones who informed me of their father's adultery with my once upon a time best friend, Busayo Adegbite, before I heard the same story from my neighbours and neigbourhood folks. She later apologised to me but the harm had been done. It was too hard a story to believe.
They were there when he would beat me up and threaten to kill me for coming back late from work or because he suspects that I am cheating on him, an accusation he has not yet been able to prove to his family head the last time I reported him.
The fact remains that a good father is not equals to a good husband. This research result is as simple as ABC.
Anyway, my update caught Ali Baba's attention and he put it on his Instagram page. Most of his followers were able to see the positive side of my update. That is good enough for me. Negative people can go and jump inside the lagoon.
My life is sweet!
See Ali Baba's update:
https://www.instagram.com/p/BVe7JQYAKEE/?taken-by=alibabagcfr
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